The style of parenting in which everyone wins gets the spotlight today. It's firm and respectful, effectively stops misbehavior and teaches responsibility. It's the clearest way in which children at a very early age learn life lessons and grow up being responsible, sharp, problem solving, and respectful adults.

The best part of this style is that it works for all types of personalities and learners. It's for the stubborn, strong willed, easy learners and even those who are laid back. Using this method- successfully will mean power struggles are no longer provoked, feelings go uninjured, relationships are no longer damaged, the child's spirits are unharmed, and they will feel more secure, and loved.  Therefore they will be more emotionally stable, healthy and happy all around.

These Parents:

• use "matter of fact" and firm voices are used when needed
• believe their children are capable of solving problems on their own
• use encouragement when trying to motivate cooperation
• believe children should be given choices- but need to learn to stick with the choice they made as well
• teach mutual respect expect the same
• enjoy less testing by their children
• relax as the majority of problems are solved by the child/children
• children take their parents words seriously.

The children will learn this:

• Responsibility
• Cooperation
• Independence
• Respect for rules and authority
• Self-control
• Limits are set and don't move
• Obedience
• Best of all- Know that "NO" means "NO"

This style of parenting is Authoritative or Democratic.

These parents lay out clear expectations and limits/boundaries for their children. They monitor behavior of their children and are consistent in following through on holding up the rules and expectations they have for their children. These parents try to catch the good behavior and reward it with encouraging phrases and "good jobs" rather than focusing on the bad.
These children are expected to be socially responsible, behave maturely, use manners, mind their parents, and respect their elders. Best of all- these aren't only expectations but it's the true result of children raised with parents using this style of instruction and teaching.

This type of household will most likely- if the parenting is firm and consistent- have the fewest number of tantrums, have the most respect and make the most of their family time because there is peace and known authority in the household- making things run smoothly and in order.

NannyU Tips:

• Make sure to follow through with consistent punishment/discipline when necessary.
• Encourage good behaviors, use "rewarding phrases" but don't go overboard and make too big of deal of such actions and thoughts.
• Watch for children to change their manipulating tactics- be on your guard to ensure you're consistence in expectations and limits.
• Remember ignoring misbehavior sends the message to the child that you're saying, "it's okay to do that..."
• Remember participating in arguments and "sparring matches" with your child is really sending to them the message that, "my limits really aren't so firm and are up for debate"
• Firm limits send the most clear message to children that you're serious and must be taken that way!